About a week ago, I posted an article about what to expect when you go to a body rub parlour for the first time. To my surprise, it ended up being really popular! Turns out a lot of you wanted to know what to expect before taking the plunge!
What I realize now is that a lot of guys must have been looking at all the tweets about sexy Canadian massage parlour attendants on @Workinggirlssix … And liking them a lot … But they didn’t know where to start when it came to seeing an escort.
Could the same thing hold true for our stunning Canadian companions?
If that’s the case, hell, we gotta’ fix that – pronto!!!
Today’s blog post is all about showing you guys who have never seen a gorgeous Canadian sex worker how to do just that! Looking at the incredible pics online is one thing but spending actual intimate time with the actual girl in actual real life … Whole! Different! Ballgame!
Now I can understand why the sex worker scene might seem intimidating or unaccessible. You may have a ton of questions… Do I go to a massage parlour first or do I go to an escort? Do I go through an agency or do I go with an independent provider? How much does it cost? Are there hidden fees? Do I have to fill out a screening form? What is she going to do with all that info? What’s this about a deposit? How do I know she won’t take it and run? How do I know she won’t have cameras set up and blackmail me? And so much more!!!
That’s a lot of unanswered questions … And it’s really important to get answers to all of them before you would ever even consider getting started.
Good news though, I’ll answer them all plus more … Or at least steer you in the right direction so you can find the answers for yourself.
And then you can have amazing sex with a girl so hot you’ll think you died and came back as a sports celebrity!
Let’s start off with the basics.
What sort of provider should you see first?
If you want to really ease into things, I would start with a body rub parlour. They don’t ask for personal information, there’s no deposit needed and the bigger spas are, for the most part, on the up-and-up – meaning you don’t have to worry about them trying to scam you somehow.
The experience itself is relatively tame if you go with the standard VIP body slide. But it’ll be quite stimulating for a first go … And you’ll get to finish off usually with some form of an amazing handjob from a real hottie. Just check out last week’s entry for more details about going to a body rub parlour for the first time.
Now, if you know exactly the kind of service you want – and it’s the kind only an escort can provide –
it’s time to do research.
Real concerns are that the girl you’ve found can be some kind of a scammer trying to steal your deposit or personal information without providing you any kind of service. Or they have STI’s. Or they could just be a lousy service provider and you’ll regret booking with her. All of these are distinct possibilities … But ones that can be avoided.
Do your research!
Look at women you see on Twitter. See how many followers they have and see if they interact with other providers. If she seems well established or works for an agency, that’s a good first step.
Now read reviews on her. Check review boards to see what others say about them. Even just Google their name and city. A lot of times scammers will show up here right away. In this day and age of digital accountability, any bad business practices a provider may have used in the past are often layed out for all to see online.
In fairness, don’t just read one review though. There are many guys who write fake reviews about providers because they might not even have gotten past her screening process and now they’re pissed off. Or they did get a date but their provider wasn’t willing to lower her prices or do the risky behaviours they pressured her for. Read numerous reviews to get a real sense about your potential provider – the nonsense will filter itself out.
Once you feel comfortable that the sex worker you’ve selected doesn’t have a history of risky health behaviours (ie. offering unprotected services), isn’t known for robbing or extorting her clients and is pretty good at what she does,
it’s time to reach out to her…
And this is where many guys screw up…
First of all, understand that this is a professional business transaction. If you treat it like some friend you’re hooking up with, she won’t take you seriously.
Sending a DM / text that says “hi” is a waste of her time and won’t get answered. Something like asking for a bunch of risky services such as “do you do bbbj / bbfs” (bbbj = bareback blow job, bbfs = bareback full sex) will often have her mocking you behind your back and ignoring you out of disgust. Asking at 3:30 AM if she’s available will not get a response because she’s probably sleeping.
Also, following up with an email that says “HELLO???” five minutes after she didn’t answer the first one will make her not want to deal with you – she has a life and other clients she could be in session with. Think about it – you wouldn’t want her texting another client while she’s in an appointment with you would you?
Finally, if you get a response that says she can’t accommodate what you’re looking for, don’t start calling her every derogatory name you can think of for a sex worker. It just makes you look like a misogynistic incel (which you very well could be if you’re carrying on like that.) They will never book you in the future and she may even warn her friends about you.
Remember, respect gets you everywhere! How you communicate with her when you’re setting up the date is the first indicator of what kind of client you could be. If you’re coming across as demanding, impatient, arrogant or a risk to her health or safety, she won’t be interested in spending her time with you.
Over the course of your research, you may find that she works for an agency or she is independent. If she works for an agency, their website will take you through their booking process and what they need from you. They’ll probably even have a phone number you can call if you have questions. It’s probably as simple as booking a dental appointment … but a fuck of a lot more fun!
An independent provider, on the other hand, has to do all her own booking and screening. If you see a provider you like on Twitter, her website link will usually be located just under her banner. Her booking procedures will be very clearly layed out on her website. Read it and follow it. One of the main pet peeves independent providers complain about is clients who don’t follow their booking procedures.
Booking procedures can range in complexity from sending a text and then a picture of your driver’s license to filling out a screening form that may include your driver’s license, your Facebook or LinkedIn info and even a reference from another provider.
At this point you may be thinking that that’s a lot of information to be sharing with a sex worker. Yes. That’s the point.
Sex work is dangerous for them. Unfortunately, there are some guys who get off on hurting women. If they feel there aren’t any potential repercussions for their actions, their behavior is likely to be worse.
But if the provider has a copy of the guy’s driver’s license and access to his social or professional circle, the guy won’t risk her involving the police or her exposing his behavior to his family, friends and colleagues online. It’s basically insurance to make sure the guy stays in line.
A lot of guys will express the concern that they’re not comfortable with a sex worker having the ability to expose them online. They don’t want to provide all the details. Understandable. But this is where your research should come in. If she’s exposed other guys’ identities online in the past or tried to extort them, it would be all over the review boards not to trust her and she would quickly lose all her clients.
Remember, this is the provider’s business. Creating a bad reputation for herself will not help her. A bad review where a sex worker has breached this trust can have serious ramifications for her livelihood. It’s just not worth it to them.
So, in a nutshell all you have to do to prevent her from using that information against you is not be abusive to her while you’re there. Plain and simple.
But if you are still nervous, there are still a lot of very attractive women at massage parlours. They’re not as stringent about screening their clients. And you can still have a very VERY good time there.
The other thing you might run into a snag with is when the provider is asking for a reference from another provider to ensure you’re safe. If this is your first time, you obviously won’t have a reference. Some may still be willing to accommodate you using other info or it may mean that you’ll need to see other providers who don’t ask for references or massage parlour attendants first. Ask them if they’d be willing to provide a reference for you. Chances are, they’ll be cool about it. It’s a pretty common request in the industry. Also, try to provide a couple in case one of them doesn’t respond right away.
During your conversations with her while setting up your date, be sure to let her know about any special outfits or fetishes you’re hoping she can accommodate. There may be extra charges for these and you don’t want any award surprises at your actual date.
And speaking of charges, most of the prices for a standard rendez-vous are listed on her website based on the amount of time you book for and also if she has to travel to get to you. Anything extra, like I mentioned above, should be discussed prior to the date.
There are three options around where you can meet her – at her incall (either a hotel room, a rented Airbnb or a condo used specifically as her incall) or you could have her come to where you are (it may cost a little more depending on your location) or if you’re planning a longer date, you could meet at a mutually agreed upon venue for dinner or drinks.
So, once you’ve passed the screening, sent her the deposit and made the arrangements, there are a few things you’ll want to keep in mind:
- If you have to cancel, let her know as soon as possible. You probably won’t get your deposit back though.
- Don’t ghost her, you’ll never get another appointment with her. If it’s through an agency, they may not book you again.
- Don’t be late. She may have to deduct your lateness from your paid time.
- Don’t show up too early. The time between sessions is hers to prep for your arrival. Showing up early will only rush her and set a bad tone for the date.
Once you get there, there are a couple of standard practices she will appreciate. Leave the donation in an envelope on the table where she can see it – ask if you’re not sure where she’d like you to leave it. Then excuse yourself to the shower … And clean yourself THOROUGHLY. You don’t want your session tainted because she’s completely turned off by some hygiene issue.
Also, if you really want to set the tone right from the start, bring her a gift. Some providers will have suggestions on their website as to what they like. If it’s your first time seeing her, you can bring a bottle of wine or champagne, flowers or even chocolates. An extra tip in the envelop or a gift card is also a good way to start off your time together. A kind gesture always goes a long way.
Now, some of you may be wondering what is included in your standard date. What does your payment get you? Are you gonna’ have sex for that money or is that extra? Relax – you’re gonna’ have sex … And you’ll probably get a BJ too! But, keep in mind, what goes on behind closed doors between two consenting adults is up to them. It’s not my place to promise what’s going to happen. I can only make a pretty educated prediction! And I predict you’re gonna’ be pretty happy!
Remember that while you’re there, you don’t have anything to prove. You don’t have to spend the whole session trying to make her cum, or trying to make yourself cum five times in an hour, or pump non-stop without a break for the whole session. You’ll just end up exhausted and looking ridiculous. Have fun and go with the flow. You’ll both have a way better time.
So, hopefully that answers all your questions about seeing a sex worker for the first time! But if you do have any specific questions, always feel free to reach out to the provider you’re interested in or her agency and ask. (Just do it in a text or DM – don’t ask a really private question in the comments under her pic on Twitter – that just makes everyone uncomfortable!)
Seeing a sex worker for the first time is as easy as signing up with a new family physician. There are a few questions at the start … But once you’re done, you’ll have a fuckload more fun with the sex worker than you will with your new doctor during your physical.
Until next time!
–D at @Workinggirlssix