So many times I’ve seen guys dressing up to go to clubs, leaving a big tip for a cute waitress or driving an expensive car. Why? It’s simple – to impress the ladies.
And there ain’t nothing wrong with that! If you’ve got it, flaunt it!
But then I have to ask the question, why do so many guys score such low points with escorts and massage parlour attendants? It’s like they go the extra mile to have the opposite effect on them!
Now, what do I mean by them having the opposite effect? Providers going on line to complain how much they absolutely hated their client for one reason or another.
Now, it could be argued that the guys don’t feel the need to impress these ladies because they are paying for their services. But they tip waitresses whose services they pay for. They’re polite to other women in other professional industries. So it can’t be that.
I believe a large part of it (not all of it, because there really are some big assholes out there) would be because a lot of you guys just aren’t aware of the proper etiquette when it comes to sex workers.
As a child, your parents probably taught you how to behave in a restaurant. They probably didn’t have as many opportunities to teach you how to behave at a sexy escort’s incall or at an erotic massage parlour.
So guys, you all know how to impress ladies outside the sex worker realm (or at least not leave them revolted by you.)
Let’s take this chance to go over some tips on how to impress the ladies who you’re paying to get very very intimate with you.
But what’s in it for you? A sex worker who is with a guy she is impressed by and feels comfortable with is more likely to let her guard down a bit. And that can only lead to a more relaxed enjoyable session for both of you.
So let’s look at it…
Before you book, always go over her website if she has one. Most of the information you need on how to book her will be there. She may require screening and a deposit. These things are all there to ensure her safety. Challenging her on the screening or deposit may start things off on the wrong foot and you may not get to see her.
How you communicate with her is also important. After going over her website, she will appreciate a respectful note that explains when you’d like to meet and for how long, what kind of date you’re looking for and asks if she’s available. Offering your deposit and screening info is also solid behaviour. Getting all this without any kind of hassle is always a relief to her.
Sending messages at 3:00 AM asking how much and listing a bunch of acronyms that all start with “BB” will instantly turn her off and not get you what you want. At all.
Once you’ve set up your date or you’ve gone to a spa for a session, you’ll always be expected to have a shower.
Take your time and clean yourself properly. Many providers frequently complain that the men they see are unhygienic. Wash yourself – your face, your armpits, your balls, your ass, your dick, under your foreskin if you have it – thoroughly and with soap. This will make a huge difference in how she responds to you. You might even want to pop in a breath mint if you’ve got one.
Now, when you first see her, be polite. Let her get to know you a bit before trying to become physical with her. Talk a little, ask her questions. Once she feels a little more comfortable with you, she’ll start to enjoy herself … And so will you.
When discussing what services you’d like, don’t haggle. Asking for lower rates makes her feel like you’re treating her body like a discount fleamarket. She’s put a value on what she’s willing to do with her body. If you’ve found certain services to be more than you’re willing to pay, you can respectfully decline them. It’s not up to her to discount her body and what she’s willing to do with it to work around your budget. But once the services are agreed upon, the fun can begin.
If you’re seeing an escort and it’s been agreed upon ahead of time or you already know her gratuities from previous sessions, you would just leave the funds in full in an envelop so she sees it. You can even slip in a little extra to ensure the session goes well.
Also, upon arrival, a small gift is always appreciated. If the providers have their own page or have a page with an agency, suggestions for gifts are frequently there. Not because they expect them, but because guys frequently like to go the extra mile. Types of wine or gift cards are often listed there. If that’s not in your budget, even bringing an MPA you know a coffee or smoothie the way she likes it is appreciated.
During the intimate portion of your date, seeking clarity on certain activities before doing them is important. Don’t just assume that they like your fingers in them or that they like being spanked, choked … or even kissed. Asking first is appreciated and goes a long way in ensuring they’re comfortable with you during your session. Violating boundaries because you didn’t ask about them will really turn things south quick. Remember, consent is sexy.
After you’re done, wrapping up in a positive way will quite possibly lead to an even better session next time. Thank her. Tip her when you pay – you tip waitresses, this was a thousand times more tip-worthy! Treat her with dignity.
After you’ve left, a kind text or DM thanking her for her time and letting her know how much you enjoyed it will make her feel like a million bucks. If you booked through an agency or spa, go the extra mile to let them know how great she was. She’ll really like that.
And if you are someone who writes on review boards, only write kind things. If you didnt have the best time, write nothing at all. There’s no need to damage someone’s livelihood because they may have been having a bad day. Positivity goes a lot further in the sex worker industry than hurtfulness. Someone who is built up will always try to live up to their reputation. And that’s good for everyone.
Hopefully these tips will help you in your future sessions. They absolutely cannot hurt.
Until next time,
–D at @Workinggirlssix